My previous post, “Where the Boys Aren’t,” attempted to introduce the few, the proud, the brave…okay, the men, to an untapped resource for personal growth. Well, I thought it might be prudent to follow up with a weather report for the journey ahead: Partly fair skies with a chance of ignorance.
For example, last summer, a group of folks that I met while on vacation featured a single woman who made it abundantly clear that goal #1 for her trip was to “find a man.” When questioned by the group as to what type of guy she was looking to meet, she hypnotically responded, “an evolved one.” Later in the trip, the subject came up again, but focused on the type of guy she wished to avoid. Among a litany of possibilities she emphatically stated, “guys who spend any time in the self-help aisle.” Had I misunderstood her definition of evolved? Surely she wasn’t speaking in the Darwinian sense? I mean after all, last time I checked, most of us were walking erect…so to speak. Upon my return home, this contradiction was further reinforced while watching an early episode of the HBO series In Treatment, where a fetching (if not kvetching) single woman offered her therapist an ominous forecast of the contemporary male. Echoing the oft-overused expression that goes something like 60 is the new 40, she remarked that “men are the new women.”
Does anyone out there in the modern world still feel obligated to believe such nonsense? Do men have to become women in order to evolve emotionally? I’m sure there are some snickering hordes among us that are just dying to say, “well…yes,” but there in lies part of the problem. This would be akin to throwing the baby out with the bath water. In this case the baby being the innately gifted soul we’ve all been commissioned to navigate through this lifetime. The bath water being the rampant unfound garbage we’ve been taught to believe about ourselves. Self-exploration is genderless and as we come to the sobering close of a year that began with Bernie Madoff and ended with Tiger Woods, the sooner that one sinks in — the better.
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